June 3rd, 2011, 05:57 PM
Last edited by Muffin; June 7th, 2011 at 11:51 PM.
Reason: transfer the pics to my album
June 3rd, 2011, 06:02 PM
I'm sorry this bothers you so much.
The only thing I can think of to try and minimize this is perhaps a bit of mousse to give a bit more fluff and body (as you have suggested), and also over directing the hair while you hit it with a blow dryer. You can do this using a vent brush to lift and direct the hair at the roots while you dry the scalp area only. You don't have to dry all your hair with a blow dryer but if you just style those areas with a blow dryer it could help.
Just so you know, it looks far worse to you than other people. This is always the case with things that we perceive as our own imperfections. And we all have them. I have my face/body issues but I learn to play up what I like about the way I look and try to down play the things I don't like.
And other than that, just distract people with a smile and a pleasant manner.
I always find that pleasant people are beautiful to me. And confidence is sexy as hell.
June 3rd, 2011, 06:09 PM
Thank you Amused sometimes it bothers me so much that I cry,
sometimes it doesn't and even laugh at it.
The thing that makes me more sad it's that I want to leave my hair loose sometimes and I can't
and my sister has this strange way of saying things like OoooO you are going bald and laugh at me,
I know she is joking and I never got mad at her, it's just her way to play with me but sometimes
I really want to have more hair.
June 3rd, 2011, 07:18 PM
Oh, Muffin, don't feel bad.
I have this problem, too, but I'm much less brave than you, and can't bear to post the photos. My boyfriend assures me it's just my part, but to me it feels like I'm going bald. Just like you, it seems to be more at the back of my head, so I have to be careful when I take progress photos so that it doesn't show.
One thing I've found that helps is making a half-up that pulls hair over that problem area. You can then just leave it down in the half-up, or incorporate it into an updo. On the plus side, I find doing a half-up first creates more lift to my updo and I think it flatters my face more.
I also second aMused's advice -- we're our own worst critics. It really doesn't look like anything to those who aren't looking for it.
June 3rd, 2011, 08:16 PM
June 3rd, 2011, 09:22 PM
messy is good
I have a spot back on the left of the crown where my hair naturally likes to separate. My mom and my sister both have the same spot of separation in their hair, so I always figured it was an inherited hair pattern. Mine works with my part, or rather, maybe I learned to work with it!
June 3rd, 2011, 09:44 PM
That's actually just the "crown" of your head. Our hair naturally has a whorl where our crown is and on some it's more prominent. My granddaughter has two crowns and she is left handed. It's an old wives tale that a double crown signals left handed people. She and her mom also have "cowlicks" on their foreheads.
If people give you sh*t about it just tell them you are so special your crown had to be bigger than most. It's probably an expansion place for all your brains. ;)
June 3rd, 2011, 10:36 PM
SurprisingWoman is correct that it is a natural crown feature on most folks. However, I have thinning hair and so my crown spot often looks huge and while I will often try to comb my hair so it is covered, I sometimes don't bother - or I don't notice. Case in point, I found a pair of ketylos in my living room and to help me remember to bring them upstairs to my bedroom, I simply popped them in my hair. I then decided I'd take a peek and admire them and noticed the hair cleavage from hell:
Wow, that's 3 distinct areas of scalp. But odds are people will be distracted by the pretty sticks so I don't sweat it too much because there isn't any point in fretting. Though I really do wish my hair wasn't quite so thin
Muffin, if it really makes you terribly self-conscious, a little dark eyeshadow applied to the area will help camouflage it (they do sell actual hair makeup but it's basically overpriced eyeshadow anyhow)
June 3rd, 2011, 11:01 PM
Thank you everybody for your responses, I feel a little better that I'm not the only one.
I didn't really know our hair naturally has a whorl where our crown is thank you surprisingwoman for explain it.
Islandboo sometimes my hair looks like yours, Does your hair is naturally thin? how do you know you have thinning hair?
and thank you for the eye shadows tip I'll look into that.
Thank you everybody for look at this thread and give me your support/advice
June 4th, 2011, 02:42 AM